June 30, 2026
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Therefore, as the chosen of God, holy and dearly loved, put on affection, compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience.—Colossians 3:12
While I was walking along in an open field at sunrise, I noticed something in the distance, gently floating down from the sky. I went to pick it up. It was a tiny, downy bird feather. I looked all around. There wasn’t a bird in sight. Now I’m not trying to be spooky or hyper-spiritual, because I know it was a regular bird feather, probably from the underbelly of a dove, but the gentle way it fell from the sky really spoke to my spirit.
Gentleness. Do you know that’s one of the fruits of the Spirit found in Galatians 5? It’s right there, smack-dab in between “goodness” and “faithfulness.” To be honest, it’s one of the fruits of the Spirit I rarely think about. I was in a church service where the preacher was rattling off the fruits of the Spirit in his sermon, and he left “gentleness” out. I didn’t even realize it, and I don’t think anyone else did either, until someone on the front row said, “You left off gentleness.” It was a telling moment for me that I didn’t even realize it was overlooked.
Even if we need to confront someone who has done us wrong, Christians should be known for their gentle demeanor. If the Holy Spirit (the heavenly dove) is in us, He will show us how to be gentle. Do you remember what Jesus told His disciples when He sent them out to minister? “Be wise as serpents, harmless as doves” (Matthew 10:16).—Greg A. Lane1
A perfect picture
Galatians 5:22–23 says that the Holy Spirit works in us to be more like Christ (Ephesians 4:14–16), and part of the fruit, or results, of that work is gentleness. Gentleness, also translated “meekness,” does not mean weakness. Rather, it involves humility and thankfulness toward God, and polite, restrained behavior toward others. The opposites of gentleness are anger, a desire for revenge, and self-aggrandizement. …
When we are filled with the Spirit’s fruit of gentleness, we will correct others with easiness instead of arguing in resentment and anger, knowing that their salvation is far more important than our pride (2 Timothy 2:24–25). We will forgive readily, because any offense toward us is nothing compared to our offenses against God—offenses He’s already forgiven (Matthew 18:23–35). …
Jesus gave us the perfect picture of gentleness: “See, your king comes to you, gentle and riding on a donkey” (Matthew 21:5), and now He offers us His gentleness as a gift. If we allow the Holy Spirit to lead us, we will be filled with the fruit of gentleness.—GotQuestions.org2
What it means to me
Gentleness is prautes in the original Greek text. It’s been translated both as “meekness” and “gentleness.” Here I’ve compiled briefly what the concept means to me.
Submission to God: Jesus is the perfect example of being entirely devoted to doing God’s will, whatever the cost. Even when faced with His impending arrest and execution, He told His Father, “I want your will to be done, not mine” (Matthew 26:39).
Meekness means thinking less of what I want and more of what God wants.
Readiness to learn: If the Italian physicist, mathematician, astronomer, and philosopher Galileo Galilei (1564–1642) could say, “I have never met a man so ignorant that I couldn’t learn something from him,” then how much more is that true for me!
Meekness means never thinking I know enough or that I’m too good or exalted to learn from others.
Consideration: When Moses’ own brother and sister attacked his position as leader of the Israelites, he remained gentle toward them and let God deal with the situation. Even after God had vindicated him, his only concern was for Miriam to be forgiven and healed.3
Gentleness is never self-important, and it is always kind and courteous.
Not hateful or wimpy: Gentleness is never hateful, but neither is it wimpy. It’s getting indignant at the right time, in the right measure, and for the right reasons.
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).—Ronan Keane
Where does gentleness come from?
Gentleness comes “from above” (James 3:17), from “the Father of lights,” the unchangeable source of every good and perfect gift (James 1:17). Gentleness is a divine gift to unworthy sinners. And, as is the case regarding all we have in Christ—our identity, our gifts, our virtues—gentleness is a gift that is “received, not achieved.”
Jesus Christ is the supreme embodiment of the gentleness that comes from above because he is divine Wisdom incarnate (Psalm 45:4; Matthew 11:29). During his earthly ministry, Jesus displayed supreme gentleness in that, “when he was reviled, he did not revile in return” (1 Peter 2:23), but instead suffered the consequences of our sinful anger “in his body on the tree” (1 Peter 2:24). …
Having sown his body in the ground through humility and gentleness, Jesus reaped a harvest of righteousness for us in his resurrection, ascension, and enthronement at the Father’s right hand (John 12:24; James 3:18), the fruits of which he has poured out upon us in the person of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23; Philippians 1:9–11). Accordingly, the meekness that comes from above comes not only in Jesus Christ but also through Jesus Christ, who anoints and endows us with “a spirit of gentleness” (1 Corinthians 4:21; Galatians 6:1)
Though gentleness is a gift, something that is “received, not achieved,” gentleness can nevertheless be cultivated.
Here two errors must be avoided. On the one hand, we must not think that gentleness can be achieved by pulling ourselves up by our own bootstraps… Gentleness is a “fruit of the Spirit,” not a work of the flesh (Galatians 5:22–23). On the other hand, we must not think that gentleness can be achieved through passivity. …
Gentleness, like all graces which are ours through union with Jesus Christ, is a gift that is to be actively received and appropriated through faith, hope, and love.
Gentleness is cultivated through union and communion with Jesus Christ, [which is] well illustrated through the biblical metaphor of being clothed with Christ in baptism. … [This] is also something we are called to actively appropriate—something we are called to “put on.” …
If the vice of anger is among the severest spiritual afflictions of our age, then the virtue of gentleness is among the most needful spiritual medicines. While there exist many helpful protocols regarding how we might manage our participation in the “outrage machine” of contemporary (especially social media) culture, the deep cure for our ills will not come merely through adopting such protocols for self-control, but through cultivating the virtue of gentleness. …
Though we fall short in many ways when it comes to the virtue of gentleness, it is important to remember that Jesus Christ is an inexhaustible fountain of gentleness, and that he gently invites us to draw freely upon his inexhaustible fullness. ... When it comes to the virtue of gentleness, he is the vine, and we are the branches (John 15:1–5). The strength of our virtue, and of our growth in virtue, lies not in ourselves, but in him in whose presence we find “quietness and trust forever” (Isaiah 32:17).—Scott Swain4
Reflections on gentleness
In our rough and rugged individualism, we think of gentleness as weakness, being soft and virtually spineless. Not so! Gentleness includes such enviable qualities as having strength under control, being calm and peaceful when surrounded by a heated atmosphere, emitting a soothing effect on those who may be angry or otherwise beside themselves, and possessing tact and gracious courtesy that causes others to retain their self-esteem and dignity.―Charles R. Swindoll
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A Christian reveals true humility by showing the gentleness of Christ, by being always ready to help others, by speaking kind words and performing unselfish acts, which elevate and ennoble the most sacred message that has come to our world.―Ellen G. White
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Gentleness is the ability to bear reproaches and slights with moderation, and not to embark on revenge quickly, and not to be easily provoked to anger, but to be free from bitterness and contentiousness, having tranquility and stability in the spirit.―Aristotle
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Gentleness is not apathy but is an aggressive expression of how we view people. We see people as so valuable that we deal with them in gentleness, fearing the slightest damage to one for whom Christ died. To be apathetic is to turn people over to mean and destructive elements, to truly love people causes us to be aggressively gentle.―Gayle D. Erwin
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If zeal had been appropriate for putting humanity right, why did God the Word clothe himself in the body, using gentleness and humility in order to bring the world back to his Father?―Isaac of Nineveh
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Gentleness is not weakness. Just the opposite. Preserving a gentle spirit in a heartless world takes extraordinary courage, determination, and resilience. Do not underestimate the power of gentleness, because gentleness is strength wrapped in peace, and therein lies the power to change the world.―L. R. Knost
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I choose gentleness … Nothing is won by force. I choose to be gentle. If I raise my voice, may it be only in praise. If I clench my fist, may it be only in prayer. If I make a demand, may it be only of myself.—Max Lucado
Published on Anchor June 2026. Read by Jon Marc. Music by Michael Dooley.
1 Greg A. Lane, My Morning Walks with God (Inspired Design & Graphics, 2016).
2 “The Fruit of the Holy Spirit—What is gentleness?” GotQuestions.org, https://www.gotquestions.org/fruit-Holy-Spirit-gentleness.html
3 See Numbers 12:1–16.
4 Scott Swain, “Cultivating Gentleness in an Age of Outrage,” Desiring God, December 12, 2019, https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/masters-of-self
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